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Julia Places and Spaces

Coke and Marshmallows

Sensory memory is a crazy thing. I turned 27 this week and I can still vividly remember an afternoon when I was six years old.

Sitting on the hot rod-iron chairs on our low and sun-bleached back porch. My friend was over at my house and we were having a snack. Whichever adult in my life thought it was a good idea to give us a can of Coca-Cola each and a bag of mini marshmallows, must have been feeling generous. Even though she’s a law obeying, and quite religious woman today, there was always a little streak of wild in my friend and it was her idea to fill our mouths with sips of Coke and pop a couple marshmallows in. That sickly sweet, bubbling and fizzing sensation comes back to me so clearly it makes my teeth feel fuzzy.

We swished the frothy concoction around in our mouths and  turned it into a contest – seeing who could spit the wet marshmallows farthest off the porch and into the yard. Girls spitting range is not the same as boys, and at six years old we were pretty bad. Most of the mess must have ended up on the porch, though I can’t remember. I’m not sure how long we sat out there that day or if we did anything after or before. The only memory that sticks with me is the taste of the  first few sips of lukewarm coke and the slimy marshmallows expanding and fizzing in my mouth.

Pretty gross. But pretty cool how clearly I can recall it. If only all memories were so easily brought forth!

 

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Quotes Samuel

Dealing With A Loss

Today I lost someone I cared about, it sucks and I’m sad. A big part of me wants to mope, turn off the lights in my house and not do anything. Just sit in the dark with my phone off and ignore the world for a few days. Maybe I will take that route, or maybe I won’t. I don’t think there is any 1 “correct” way to deal with someone you love dying…..
In general I’m a super positive person, so I like to find positive in everything. That’s pretty hard to do right now, but I will say the one positive of death is that it jolts you into appreciating everyone around you more. You are not shy about telling your family and friends you love them more often, if only for a while… I think this phenomenon is a big part of one of my favorite quotes which goes:

“The closer you are to death, the more alive you feel”

That quote came to me mainly in regards to explaining why I love to do risky activities like sky diving, scuba diving, skiing in back country… ect… but while writing this I realized that it also hits home for me now.

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Inspirational Julia

Even the Terrible Things: A Book Review

“Even the Terrible Things Seem Beautiful to Me Now” is a collection of articles written by a Chicago Tribune columnist, Mary Schmich, and anyone who ever lived in or wants to live in Chicago should read it.

The first section of the book is about Mothers and the very first story made me cry as I read it in the book store while I was deciding if I was going to buy the book or not. in such a relatable way. The way she describes a powder blue bike that her dad gave her even though he didn’t have much to give, made me think about cruising on the city streets at dusk, swerving to avoid car doors and feeling free with the wind on your face and in your hair.

She talks about tragedy and strength in the same sentence as she describes how a Chicago judge, who’s husband and mother were murdered, comforts her children and ends up going back to work.

Schmich is able to take a normal life, a normal story, and show it for the incredible gift that it is. She says her mom told her, in her old age, that looking back across her life she could only see good. She said that even the terrible things seemed beautiful to her now. How hopeful is that for every reader? That life gives you what it will and in the end – somehow- everything looks beautiful.

Book Review Grade: A

Writing style: Frank, honest and raw

Mood: while there is a lot of sadness in this book, there is a prevailing theme of hope and strength and survivorship

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Random News Samuel

Just A Funny Pic For The Day

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Samuel Twenty Somethings

Using The Seinfeld Productivity Method

Over the years I have constantly struggled to maintain a “productive” schedule. I tried post it notes, calendars, too-do list… pretty much any kind of productivity hack you can think of, all of which I had various degrees of success with. The main problem with all of these methods is that they would get complicated, and they don’t really show you a “big picture” of how you are doing. I recently came across a quote from Seinfeld about the method he used when he was early in his career, and he credits it with powering his success. Naturally this intrigued me since he is one of the most successful humans on the planet, so I set out to see how this method works for me.

The basic premise behind this method is very simple. Get a large calendar, hang it up on your wall in a place that you can easily see it. Then decide on 3-4 activities you want to do every day. If you do those activities, you get a big check mark for that day, if you don’t do those activities then you have to put a big ugly x mark on that day. I’ve been using this method for 5 months so far this year, and it has REALLY improved my life, and my overall productivity. The goals for each day are completely arbitrary, and will be different for everyone. My goals happen to be to wake up at an appropriate hour, to spend between 3-6 hours of “focused” working, and to get at least 45 minutes of exercise in. To get an idea of what kind of calendar you should use see my setup below:

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Books Samuel

Book Of The Month

My book of the Month to read was Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell:
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General Thoughts:
I went into this book pretty excited because I have herd a lot of “hype” and good things about it. For the most part it did not disappoint. Gladwell has filled the book with tons of interesting insites. My favorite portion of the book was the chapter on professional ice hockey. I think this struck me as the most interesting chapter simply because of my love of Hockey. It was very eye-opening to see that such an arbitrary thing like your date of birth could have such a profound effect on your likelihood of playing hockey in the NHL.

There were portions of the book where I thought Gladwell stretched or was reaching a bit. Specifically in the portion he wrote about intelligence. However he does very well to back most things in the book up with concrete examples, and research. The most interesting part in the entire book for me was the discussion of underprivileged kids school performance. Specifically that they statistically actually “out performed” rich kids if you looked at just the school year, then when rich kids spent their summers doing as Gladwell so aptly phrased it “rich kid things” like summer camps and continuing their education, they started to leave the poor kids behind. Additionally the fact that we even have such a long summer break for kids, and how that is directly tied to our cultures way of farming I found very fascinating. I really love learning about things like that. Once Gladwell presented the question I realized I had no idea why we took the whole summer off from school growing up. I remember loving it at the time. Seeing how this formed over 100 years ago so that kids could help farming activities makes total since, and also his proposal of removing this antiquated summer vacation to allow for underprivileged kids to keep pace with “rich kids” made perfect sense to me. It is really interesting that something as simple as basing our school schedule off of how our ancestors farmed over 100 years ago could be the leading cause in education and income inequalities in this country (assuming you subscribe to the notion that the more education someone has, the more income they will earn over their lifetime).

Would I recommend it:
Definite Yes in the recommendation column.