Month: July 2015

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Twenty Somethings

Breaking Life into 1 day chunks

I wrote a little bit about breaking life up into smaller chunks in my ideal week post. But I just wanted to elaborate on this feeling a little bit more.  This is an ideal I actually got from a counselor who is working with a family friend of ours.  The councilor was helping the person feel that they had the power to “not do” an activity.  This is something that I think is common in “addict” counseling, however it was new to me.  The idea is simple: “you don’t have to not do this activity for the rest of your life, you only have to not do this activity TODAY“. This is obviously a very simple idea/concept but for whatever reason it really resonated with me, only I interpreted it as: “don’t think about progress towards your larger goal, instead think about what progress have I made for this goal today“.  (yea my wording needs some work on that one haha).

It is actually something that is hard for me to articulate, but this thought process just really resonates with me.  Tying it to my goal of exercising has been especially effective.  When you think about something that you want to do every day, it feels so daunting.  However when  you just break it up into 1 day chunks, aka “what have you done for me today” it feels very easy.  I couple that with “grading” myself on a weekly basis. 2 friends and I started a workout challenge calendar that really helps as well, I will be added a post detailing that workout calendar and a link to an example google doc.

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Samuel Thoughts

loss

sometimes, usually late at night, I stop and think about how you are gone.  How the world just keeps turning and life continues on.  I don’t know if I will ever get to see you again, and that scares me.  The finality of it all is hard to fully comprehend. In my normal day to day life I don’t feel like you are gone.  I feel like I simply have not hung out with you in a while. I get the urge to email you every now and then.  I think deep down I really just can’t believe that I wont be able to ask you any more questions, won’t be able to get your input on life…. there will be no more thanksgiving dinners with  you trying to weasel me into bringing a date….. its all pretty overwhelming if I let myself stop to fully embrace it.  I have grief, and regret that I didn’t spend more time with you.  But mainly I just miss the future fun times we would (should) have been able to have.  I catch myself thinking about my Mom and You a lot as well, I know you were her best friend.  I’m not sure how to help her or comfort her.  I’m not really sure how to help or comfort Steve either. I want to, I should have asked you how I could help Steve and Alex the last time we hung out.  That visit was so much fun.

I’m going to try to keep living with purpose, and not float through days.  The last promise you asked me to make (well the second to last one at least) I’ve been working on that a bit.  Its still kind of scary and I’m not positive if I will end up doing it, but at the very least I have a little bit of a plan in place so that’s something.

 

 

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Samuel Twenty Somethings

My Ideal Week

So this is somewhat of a continuation to my “morning ritual” blog past.  Except this is expanded into a full week.  I was told by a good friend to  life and schedule w/purpose, don’t just float down the easy path of least resistance”.  I think all of us, at times get caught in floating down the path of least resistance.  The monotonous grind of day to day life has that effect on everyone, I know that it is a constant struggle for me.  This will be an ongoing series of posts pertaining to my “ideal” week, and my “ideal” day.  I’ve found the key (for me) to living purposefully is to break things up into small amounts.  I don’t look at large goals like “get in shape” or “exercise more”.  Instead I’ve moved to treating every week (and actually even every day) as its own event.  And what I mean by that is I simply ask “have I done ____ today”.  So working out goes from “Oh I’ve had a good few days working out, I can take today off” to “have I done any exercise today”.  The same thing goes with work, and a few other things I’ll outline below.  But this “the only day you have to worry about is now” idea actually came from a counselor a family member of mine goes to.  He was telling my family member how “you don’t have to do xyz activity FOREVER, you only have to do it today”.

 

My Ideal Week (2015 edition)

Monday:

  • 7:45 – up
  • 8:15-9:15 workout
  • 9:30 – 11:00 (airplane mode work @ standing desk)
  • 11:00-12:00 answer emails/make calls (set 1 hr. timer)
  • 12:00-1:30 lunch
  • 1:30-3:30 (airplane mode work) also (optional time to meet if someone has requested a meeting)
  • 3:30-4:30 answer emails/make calls (set 1 hr. timer)

Tuesday:

  • 7:45 – up
  • 8:15-9:15 workout
  • 9:30 – 11:00 (airplane mode work @ standing desk)
  • 11:00-12:00 answer emails/make calls (set 1 hr. timer)
  • 12:00-1:30 lunch w/moms
  • 1:30-3:30 (airplane mode work) also (optional time to meet if someone has requested a meeting)
  • 3:30-4:30 answer emails/make calls (set 1 hr. timer)
  • optional evening happy hour w/moms if lunch did not work

 

Wednesday:

  • 7:45 up
  • 8:15-9:30 workout
  • 9:30-11:00 (airplane mode work) also (optional time to meet if someone has requested a meeting)
  • 12:00 – 6:15 onsite consulting work
  • 6:30-8:00 sparring/private lesson

Thursday:

  • 7:45 up
  • 8:15-9:15 workout
  • 10:00-4:00 onsite consulting work
  • 7:00-9:00 softball + happy hour drinks

Friday:

  • 7:45 up
  • 8:15-9:15 workout
  • 9:30 – 12:00 maintenance day (see full list for details)
  • 1:30-4:30 optional work (if behind) else (optional reading, optional golf, racketball, biking)

Saturday/Sunday:

  • read book from white shelf
  • buy groceries (smalldi/farmers market)
  • spend 1 hour freethinking about anything that directly effects my life or I find interesting (set timer/no distractions)

*pick one event and go early every week